OurioComing soon

Questions for couples

Questions to ask your partner

Good questions to ask your partner are specific and a little playful: how they eat a pizza crust, their first concert, what they'd do with $1,000 found on the street. Here are 150 of them in 8 topics, from fun ones to questions to ask before marriage.

Last updated:

Fun questions to ask your partner

Light ones for a car ride or a slow evening. Nobody has a wrong answer.

  1. What's your hidden party trick?
  2. How do you eat a sandwich cookie?
  3. What's always at the bottom of your bag?
  4. Which board game turns you into a monster?
  5. What do you say to the TV during a show?
  6. What do you do with a brand new notebook?
  7. What do you do when the Wi-Fi goes out?
  8. What do you grab first if the house is on fire? Everyone's already out.
  9. How do you deal with a spider in the house?
  10. What do you do when something goes missing?
  11. What's your oddly specific fear?
  12. What do you do in an elevator with strangers?
  13. What's your weirdest food combo?
  14. How would you react to a surprise party?
  15. What would you name a pet rock?
  16. Which word do you say way too often?
  17. How do you order at a drive-thru?
  18. What do you talk to when nobody's around?
  19. What do you do with the free mints at a restaurant?

Questions about food

Everyone has opinions about food, and they come out fast.

  1. How do you eat a pizza crust?
  2. What sauce do you put on almost everything?
  3. What's your go-to snack at 11 p.m.?
  4. What's your usual coffee order?
  5. How long do you take to choose from a menu?
  6. Which food would you never eat, even on a dare?
  7. Which dessert do you order every single time?
  8. What's your strategy at a buffet?
  9. What's your ideal weekend breakfast?
  10. What do you order at a restaurant you've never been to?
  11. What do you make when it's your turn to cook?
  12. What's your comfort food after a bad day?
  13. What do you always sneak into the grocery cart?
  14. What happens to leftovers in your fridge?
  15. What do you get at the movie theater snack bar?
  16. What do you do with the last fry in the bag?
  17. What would you pick as your last meal on Earth?
  18. How do you handle really spicy food?
  19. How do you like your eggs?

Questions about music

Guilty pleasures, first concerts and what plays in the car.

  1. Which genre do you claim to hate but secretly enjoy?
  2. What was your first concert?
  3. How do you dance at a wedding?
  4. What's on your walking playlist?
  5. What do you play loudest in the car?
  6. What do you play to fall asleep?
  7. What do you listen to while working?
  8. Which decade's music do you love most?
  9. What music did you love at 15?
  10. What do you do when a favorite song plays in a store?
  11. What would you sing at karaoke?
  12. Who tops your most-played list every year?
  13. What do you do with a song stuck in your head?
  14. What do you do at a live concert?
  15. Which dance did you once learn from a video?
  16. What would your walk-out song be?
  17. Which instrument did you try to learn?
  18. Which song do you secretly know every word of?
  19. What do you sing to pets?

Questions to get to know your partner better

What they'd do with a free day, a free ticket or a different life.

  1. Which animal would you want to be for a day?
  2. What's at the top of your bucket list?
  3. Where would you fly first with a private jet for a day?
  4. What must your dream house have?
  5. Who would you have dinner with, living or not?
  6. If you could live anywhere, where would it be?
  7. What would you do with a free year off?
  8. What would you do first with a time machine?
  9. Which superpower would you pick?
  10. What would you write a book about?
  11. Which era would you love to live in?
  12. Which talent do you wish you had?
  13. What business would you open someday?
  14. What would you become famous for?
  15. What would you name a boat?
  16. Which reality show would you sign up for?
  17. What would you invent if you could?
  18. What car would you drive in your dream life?
  19. What job would you take if money didn't matter?

Questions about their childhood and past

Summers, first pets, school: the stories you haven't heard yet.

  1. How did you spend summers as a kid?
  2. How did you get to school as a kid?
  3. What was your first pet?
  4. What did your childhood bedroom walls look like?
  5. What were you like in high school?
  6. What did you want to be when you grew up?
  7. What did you watch after school growing up?
  8. What was your go-to Halloween costume as a kid?
  9. What's the most rebellious thing you did as a teen?
  10. What scared you most as a kid?
  11. What was your most embarrassing moment at school?
  12. Which school subject were you secretly good at?
  13. What did you collect as a kid?
  14. What got you in trouble most as a kid?
  15. What did you think was cool at 14?
  16. What happened on your first day at a new job?
  17. What was your very first job?
  18. What toy did you beg for and never get?
  19. What's the last thing that made you cry?

Questions about everyday habits

The small habits you'll live with: alarms, folding laundry, the state of an email inbox.

  1. What does your email inbox look like?
  2. How do you fold a T-shirt?
  3. How many alarms do you set to wake up?
  4. Where is your phone battery usually at?
  5. How early do you get to the airport?
  6. When do you pack for a trip?
  7. What's the first thing you do after getting home?
  8. What do you do when an unknown number calls?
  9. What happens to the clothes on your chair?
  10. How often do you make the bed?
  11. What do you always say you'll start on Monday?
  12. What are you doing at 1 a.m. when sleep won't come?
  13. How long do you spend picking something to watch?
  14. How do you load the dishwasher?
  15. How many browser tabs do you have open right now?
  16. What's the first app you open in the morning?
  17. What do you do with a text you don't want to answer?
  18. How do you squeeze the toothpaste tube?
  19. Where do you usually find lost keys?

Questions to ask before marriage: money

Worth asking before you share a lease or a bank account.

  1. What would you do with $1,000 found on the street?
  2. How do you handle a monthly budget?
  3. How do you pay back a friend?
  4. What do you do with loose coins?
  5. What would you never pay full price for?
  6. How do you shop online?
  7. How do you react to a surprise bill?
  8. How do you tip at a restaurant?
  9. What did you spend your first paycheck on?
  10. What are you most likely to haggle over?
  11. Which subscription did you forget to cancel?
  12. Where do you keep emergency cash?
  13. How do you split a dinner check?
  14. What are you most likely to impulse-buy at 2 a.m.?
  15. What's your biggest money weakness?
  16. What would you buy first after winning the lottery?
  17. What do you always grab in the checkout line?
  18. What do you splurge on without guilt?

Questions about your relationship

About the two of you: chores, favorite photos, how you'd sum it up.

  1. How would you sum up your relationship?
  2. Which shared chore would you trade away first?
  3. Which photo of you two is your favorite?
  4. Which side of the bed do you insist on?
  5. What do you steal from your partner most?
  6. What would you name a second cat?
  7. What would you cook to impress your partner?
  8. Which gift from your partner do you treasure most?
  9. When your partner is running late, what do you do?
  10. When your partner is sick, what do you bring first?
  11. What would you plan for a perfect date night?
  12. Where would you take your partner on a surprise trip?
  13. What's your favorite way to spend a Sunday together?
  14. What do you brag to friends about your partner?
  15. What do you pick for a movie night together?
  16. What do you miss most when you two are apart?
  17. What do you remember most about our first date?
  18. What do you do after a small argument?

Play them as a game

These are the questions of Who knows who, the daily quiz in Ourio. Each day one of you answers five of them, picking from four answers; the other guesses, and the answers open together once you both have played. It works across two phones, so it fits long distance too. Ourio is free on iPhone, with no subscription. See Ourio's couples games.

Questions about these questions

What are good questions to ask your partner?

Open, specific questions work best: what they would do with a free Saturday, their first concert, how they eat a pizza crust. Small questions get real answers more often than big ones.

What questions should you ask before marriage?

Ask about money (budgets, debt, how you each spend), how you'll split chores, and what you each want from the next few years. The money and relationship lists above are a place to start.

How many questions should you ask at once?

A few at a time. Five questions a day keeps it a game, not an interview; that's the size of a daily round in Ourio's Who knows who.

Is there an app with questions for couples?

Yes. Ourio, a free iPhone app for couples, asks five of these questions a day in Who knows who: one of you answers, the other guesses, and the answers open together.

Move in together.

Ourio is free on iPhone. Your partner joins with one code.

Coming soon to the App Store